13 Survival Strategies for When Your Kid Leaves Home

Whether you’re whooping or grieving, it’s the end of an era like no other.  Whether they’ve hot footed it to Uni, or taken their first dose of independent living and working, here’s your guide on how to face forward and prosper (aka ‘get through’). Stage 1 – the early days Cry!  Having a sob can be […]

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“A parent’s love is shown through letting go”

When Cecil Day-Lewis wrote “Walking Away”, he was reflecting, some 18 years after the event, on sending his seven year old son off to boarding school.  He said the memory of it “Gnaws at my mind still”. “… selfhood begins with a walking away, And love is proved in the letting go.” Whether you whooped for […]

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Life after kids – some insights on the marriage bit

A pre-Covid story… It’s been super interesting picking up the ’empty nest’ stories from the northern hemisphere of late – there it is the season of farewells – where wings are being spread in their thousands as little darlings leave for Uni. In the southern hemisphere, the build up is in full swing, for a […]

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Love and betrayal, angst

My daughter had the biggest room in the house. Two windows onto the garden, framing an old wooden desk from her father’s youth. Opposite, a wall of shelves groaning with fantasy fiction, dystopian futures, botanical analysis, Harper Lee and JK Rowling, maths and chem, pop ups, falling apart antique, Leunig, Sean Tan, Shakespeare.  And among […]

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Empty nest without a syndrome?

A common term presides to describe our feelings when our child leaves home.  The go to  phrase ’empty nest syndrome’ falls readily from the sympathetic, knowing nod. It makes sense,  but does it fit for all? A social descriptor, rather than a clinical diagnosis, ’empty nest syndrome’ is commonly associated with feelings of sadness, loneliness […]

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