Empty Nest Syndrome – it’s a thing, and it’s ok

Many parents feel really despondent, lonely and anxious when their kid hits adulthood and leaves home. Whether Uni bound or starting their own new family, the change can be profound.  With the sense of accomplishment for them and yourself, the joy and excitement, it’s still natural to feel down. For many, it’s a time of […]

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13 Survival Strategies for When Your Kid Leaves Home

Whether you’re whooping or grieving, it’s the end of an era like no other.  Whether they’ve hot footed it to Uni, or taken their first dose of independent living and working, here’s your guide on how to face forward and prosper (aka ‘get through’). Stage 1 – the early days Cry!  Having a sob can be […]

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Three things to know about staying healthy and happy

If we need convincing of the value in staying connected with our adult kids, we can turn to ‘The Harvard Study of Adult Development’. Ignoring the fact that the nearly 80-year long study only looked at men for its first 65 years (it now has women and mid-life children (of the original participants), the findings have helped […]

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“A parent’s love is shown through letting go”

When Cecil Day-Lewis wrote “Walking Away”, he was reflecting, some 18 years after the event, on sending his seven year old son off to boarding school.  He said the memory of it “Gnaws at my mind still”. “… selfhood begins with a walking away, And love is proved in the letting go.” Whether you whooped for […]

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Life after kids – some insights on the marriage bit

A pre-Covid story… It’s been super interesting picking up the ’empty nest’ stories from the northern hemisphere of late – there it is the season of farewells – where wings are being spread in their thousands as little darlings leave for Uni. In the southern hemisphere, the build up is in full swing, for a […]

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How useful are the ‘5 stages of grief’ when your kid leaves home?

For many, grief is keenly associated with their kid leaving home. It can take many guises, from simple sadness, maybe fleeting, to overwhelming, searing pain.  For the sufferers, when mixed with optimism and strength (underpinned with support from others), it may take on a less painful shape. For others it cuts deep, dominates and requires […]

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